Yep, it's that time of year, when we all reflect on the happenings of the year that is now dwindling to its close.
I've never been a resolution type of gal, mainly because I can't stand the thought of not completing my goals.
But, with age comes wisdom, and I realize now that any progress towards a goal is just that... progress.
Progress means growth, it means change.
I've never been a resolution type of gal, mainly because I can't stand the thought of not completing my goals.
But, with age comes wisdom, and I realize now that any progress towards a goal is just that... progress.
Progress means growth, it means change.
So, here it is, my resolutions list for 2015.
1. Stop pleasing everyone else
This sounds like a selfish resolution, doesn't it? And it kind of is to be honest. It's mostly aimed towards my marriage, which makes it seem even more awful. But somewhere along the way, instead of being a wife to Josh, I turned into a mother. I pick up his laundry, I make his sandwiches, I make sure he has everything he needs before he leaves the house. Simply speaking, I've lumped him in with the kiddos. Not on purpose, but it happened nonetheless. On top of that, I consider his opinion far too much on certain topics. I won't buy clothes if I don't think he'll like them. I won't buy certain foods if I don't think he'll eat them. It goes on and on. These are thing he doesn't care about, and these are things that won't actually effect him if purchased, but would send me over the moon if I bought.
So, next year, if I like it, I buy it.
And he can take care of his smaller needs on his own, because he never asked me to do those things in the first place, and I have enough to take care of.
This sounds like a selfish resolution, doesn't it? And it kind of is to be honest. It's mostly aimed towards my marriage, which makes it seem even more awful. But somewhere along the way, instead of being a wife to Josh, I turned into a mother. I pick up his laundry, I make his sandwiches, I make sure he has everything he needs before he leaves the house. Simply speaking, I've lumped him in with the kiddos. Not on purpose, but it happened nonetheless. On top of that, I consider his opinion far too much on certain topics. I won't buy clothes if I don't think he'll like them. I won't buy certain foods if I don't think he'll eat them. It goes on and on. These are thing he doesn't care about, and these are things that won't actually effect him if purchased, but would send me over the moon if I bought.
So, next year, if I like it, I buy it.
And he can take care of his smaller needs on his own, because he never asked me to do those things in the first place, and I have enough to take care of.
2. Stop apologizing all the time
I apologize constantly. The apologies are sincere, but unnecessary. I didn't realize it until I went back to work and coworkers mentioned it. But now I have, and I hate it, so I'm working on it.
I apologize constantly. The apologies are sincere, but unnecessary. I didn't realize it until I went back to work and coworkers mentioned it. But now I have, and I hate it, so I'm working on it.
3. Be healthy
This does not mean losing 30lbs or running a half marathon. It means making good choices in food, drinking water, drinking tea more often than coffee, and physically exerting myself by doing things that make my body feel good. I'm not doing this to look good, I'm doing it to feel good.
This does not mean losing 30lbs or running a half marathon. It means making good choices in food, drinking water, drinking tea more often than coffee, and physically exerting myself by doing things that make my body feel good. I'm not doing this to look good, I'm doing it to feel good.
4. Be a storybook mom
I'm a cranky mom. I am. I'm strict, and I yell... a lot. I haven't always been this way, but I am now, and this is not how I want my kids to remember me, and this is not how I want them to learn what kind of parent to be. I want to be the kind of mom you see in the Nick Jr shows, who have soft voices, move gently, and let their kids make tough choices on their own, after getting sound wisdom nuggets, rather than trying to control everything.
I'm a cranky mom. I am. I'm strict, and I yell... a lot. I haven't always been this way, but I am now, and this is not how I want my kids to remember me, and this is not how I want them to learn what kind of parent to be. I want to be the kind of mom you see in the Nick Jr shows, who have soft voices, move gently, and let their kids make tough choices on their own, after getting sound wisdom nuggets, rather than trying to control everything.
Which brings me to...
4. Make magic
I want to be intentional in my parenting. My kids will only be this little once. I want to see wonder and amazement in their eyes, and as their mom, I have the power to make that happen.
And I'm going to.
I want to be intentional in my parenting. My kids will only be this little once. I want to see wonder and amazement in their eyes, and as their mom, I have the power to make that happen.
And I'm going to.
5. No gossip
This one is pretty self explanatory.
This one is pretty self explanatory.
6. Read the entire Bible
Eventually I will study the entire Bible, but for now, I just want to know what's going on. I hear people telling stories about this person and that person, and I don't know who they're talking about or what story it is. So now I'm going to find out.
Eventually I will study the entire Bible, but for now, I just want to know what's going on. I hear people telling stories about this person and that person, and I don't know who they're talking about or what story it is. So now I'm going to find out.
7. Be in nature more
I used to hang out in the woods constantly as a child. Now I'm only outside if I'm doing yard work. Nature brings me peace and clarity, something I had forgotten until I went hunting with the hubs recently. I loved just sitting there watching everything. I want more of that.
I used to hang out in the woods constantly as a child. Now I'm only outside if I'm doing yard work. Nature brings me peace and clarity, something I had forgotten until I went hunting with the hubs recently. I loved just sitting there watching everything. I want more of that.
8. Read one book a month
I'm not a reader. I just never have been. It takes too much time and I have the attention span of a gnat. But I want to love reading, so I feel like this resolution may help me in that endeavor.
I'm not a reader. I just never have been. It takes too much time and I have the attention span of a gnat. But I want to love reading, so I feel like this resolution may help me in that endeavor.
9. Pay off credit card
We hit a rough patch over the last few years and we turned to the plastic devil known as the credit card to help get us through. We have less credit card debt than some people, but we want none. So we'll be busting it to get rid of mine.
We hit a rough patch over the last few years and we turned to the plastic devil known as the credit card to help get us through. We have less credit card debt than some people, but we want none. So we'll be busting it to get rid of mine.
10. Start a YouTube channel
I've been approached in the past to start making trial-and-error videos of me crafting or baking (because when things go wrong, I can be dramatic and comical about it), so I've finally decided that this is the year to try it out.
Josh and I have also toyed with the idea of making videos of us singing together, but that will take some time to hammer our those details. I make no promises, but hopefully this will work out.
I've been approached in the past to start making trial-and-error videos of me crafting or baking (because when things go wrong, I can be dramatic and comical about it), so I've finally decided that this is the year to try it out.
Josh and I have also toyed with the idea of making videos of us singing together, but that will take some time to hammer our those details. I make no promises, but hopefully this will work out.
11. Speak like an adult
Okay, parents, you'll relate to this one. When your kids start talking and learning new vocabulary, you start speaking like them. Toilet will turn into potty, thumb tack will turn into pokey, and you will start speaking in a tone that makes you sound like you're auditioning for a Disney movie. Other adults won't understand and the shrill, cartoon voice will begin to grate on your own nerves. I'm putting a stop to this now.
Okay, parents, you'll relate to this one. When your kids start talking and learning new vocabulary, you start speaking like them. Toilet will turn into potty, thumb tack will turn into pokey, and you will start speaking in a tone that makes you sound like you're auditioning for a Disney movie. Other adults won't understand and the shrill, cartoon voice will begin to grate on your own nerves. I'm putting a stop to this now.
And finally, 12. Get ready first thing in the morning
I tend to shower and change clothes right before I have somewhere to be. Sometimes this means I don't get dressed until 3 in the afternoon. That's gross. My day starts as soon as my feet hit the floor and I don't have time to get dolled up right away. But I feel better when I do! So I'm going to make time.
I tend to shower and change clothes right before I have somewhere to be. Sometimes this means I don't get dressed until 3 in the afternoon. That's gross. My day starts as soon as my feet hit the floor and I don't have time to get dolled up right away. But I feel better when I do! So I'm going to make time.
Whew! I had a longer list than I realized, but it's a list that will help better me as a person, so it's totally worth it.
I would love to hear what some of your resolutions are! You can comment here or share with me on my Facebook page!
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